And ladies and gentlemen, you have to acknowledge that the mere fact that someone you find you are "attracted" too, does not always make them a great catch for you to be in a relationship with.
You cannot hold on to someone because they are the best you have had so far and you are afraid that you will not find someone comparable if you let them go.
Well, you can, but you probably should not.
Happiness is paramount, and if you are not truly happy with another…you cannot force it.
I trust that people can have whatever it is they think they can have.
If you think a person that you really should leave is the best you may ever have, it’s likely you will never have better.
Now what possibilities would exist if you would rather choose to think that if you had it once, you can have it again…and maybe even better?
Imagine who could come into your life if you would simply change your perspective?
Instead of having the attitude that you may be losing out on a good thing, use your experiences with this man or woman as proof that people like him or her do indeed exist and that they happen to be attracted to you.
Although your current relationship won’t last, you know now that a relationship with a man or woman who treats you extremely well is possible.
You can rest in that and move on with joyful anticipation of what is to come.
When you find the person who truly melts your heart, you have found that someone "special" to practice the sharing of your love with.
And, let us agree right now that this whole staying in relationships because you are scared of the what-ifs business is not good for you and should be filed away in the dead wrong department I talked about earlier.
First of all in discussing relationships it is important to point out that relationships in their current form in modern society are not working. Statistics and from my own experience in this field of human behavior show that out of every ten new marriages. 7 will fail within 10 years.
That means 70% of couples will divorce.
It is a "huge" investment of your life that is going to be lost when you get it wrong!
"Statistics show that out of every ten new marriages. 7 will fail within 10 years.
That means 70% of couples will divorce."
Why Is That Happening For So Many Men And Women?
Once you fall in love and get married or enter a civil partnership. You take the vow to honor and love each other forever, in sickness and in health. Even though you may truly hope for this at the time, the evidence is that fairy-tail marriages, in which a couple gets together and lives happy ever after is, and are very rare.
Yet deep down many people still expect this to happen for them, and when it does not. Both men and women end up feeling deeply disappointed and hurt.
If on the other hand you are taught the reality of relationships and what it entails to build a real relationship with another human being. You would be better equipped to build and nurture "real," loving and intimate relationships with your lover or lovers.
Societies, cultures and religions have decreed that you marry or be in a relationship for love and that love should last a life time. This is a wonderful proposition and ideal. However because you as either a man or a woman are given little or no education on how to achieve this impossible ideal, you as a man or a woman are doomed to fail in trying to live up to this impossible ideal.
Also in modern relationship you are trying to do something with male - female relationships that no previous society or culture has ever tried to do before.
The bringing together of "Sex, Love, Relationship and Intimacy."
Plus when you add all the demands of modern life and you are doing something that has not been done by Humanity in the past.
It is IMPORTANT to understand the impact of this - to understand that you as a man or woman are a pioneer, one of the first of Humankind to ever attempt to combine love, sex, relationship, career, family and lifestyle in such a sophisticated way before.
With no REAL form of education and role models.
The old ways of society, culture and religions are not equipping you for the demands placed on you as an individual for modern life. No wonder so many men and women have difficulties. It is not simply to do with you or your partner's inadequacies.
It is a HUGE CHALLENGE and there is very little education on weaving together love, sexual passion, relationship, career, lifestyle and family in this constantly changing modern world that will last for a lifetime. That is why I LOVE the work I have been doing for the last 25 years with individuals and couples (same sex couples too).
Most individuals and couples do no look to this type of education until they have BIG troubles.
And yet GENDER EDUCATION and EMOTION INTELLIGENCE have become more CRUCIAL in this modern, demanding, sophisticated World. More than "intellectual intelligence" alone.
Close, loving relationships provide the potential for the highest love-making possible. It is worth working on your self if you want to open up more possibilities in the area of relationships, love making and success in your life.
The subject of relationships deserves many books, so I will not try to cover everything I have studied, experienced and taught in this area for many many years.
It is beautiful when you find someone that is in love with your mind, the essence of you. Someone who takes the time to undress and appreciate your conscience and make love with your thoughts. Someone that wants to help you slowly take down the walls you have built up around your heart and let them inside to share "intimacy" with you and you alone.
To love all your vulnerabilities in embracing you.
WHY possessing Solid Confidence and RELATIONSHIP AWARENESS really does make a BIG difference to your life!
What I educate in Gender Education For Human Relationships is foreign to most men and women. As soon as I mention the work involved to do with love, sex, intimacy and relationship. Most men and women bulk at the REAL work and learning they have to do on themselves. And yet those men and women who do choose to work with me, find themselves on an amazing journey of personal self discovery and awareness that builds their self confidence and success in their relationships.
I genuinely think that most men and women are wanting to end the "battle of the sexes" and enter into joint journeys of personal growth and sexual, emotional personal fulfillment. Be it "spiritual" or "material," men and women are genuinely wanting to share "intimacy" with each other on equal terms.
I observe, both social and culturally that we are entering what you could call the "we generation" that is growing after the "me generation" that has been going on for the past decades. I see this happening on a global level, the evidence is everywhere. I also experience it from my clients who come from all over the world.
You need all the education and awareness you can get to make your relationships work in this ever increasing "high pressure" lifestyle so many men and women are living these days at all levels.
It makes a difference to your own personal development, social courting, relationships, sex, plus all other areas of your life.
Like your career, social standing, health and fitness.
And I do know you deserve to become such a Man or Woman who is Confident, Attractive and Desirable to others.