Your Intuition With Men Keeps Getting You Into Trouble. 6 Steps To Get It Right Again
Have you ever sat down with the man in your life and started talking to him and sharing things that you knew were special and important...
But instead of him listening and relating to you and your feelings bringing you CLOSER - it made him become DISTANT and WITHDRAWN?
Sometimes it seems that the MORE it matters to you, the harder it is to get a man to LISTEN and RESPOND.
Good communication has little to do with how much or how little you care. Actually, the women who have the most trouble with men and communicating in relationships are women who don't take the mature and healthy attitude of "owning" the way the things that they SAY and DO with a man make him RESPOND.
And until you decide to take the bold step of taking responsibility for the RESPONSE you create inside a man with the way you share your thoughts and feelings... you're likely to NEVER have the man in your life listening to you and giving you what you want instead.
Now, let's get into using the incredible and unique power of using your own INTUITION to "tune into" a man on a deeper level and build the level of intimacy and attraction he feels with you...
WHAT WILL GET YOU TO "THE TRUTH" OF A MAN
Let me ask you....
Have you ever been with a guy and he seemed to have it all together?
He was caring, loving, generous, present and aware, and you had such an amazing time together.
But then his issues popped up out of NOWHERE.
Maybe his issues were some of the dreaded and predictable tell tale signs of a confused and withdrawing man.
Tell me if any of the following seem strangely familiar to you:
- He starts acting restless and talking about how he isn't really ready to "settle down" and wants his "freedom"
- He tells you that he didn't see things getting "serious" so fast
- He doesn't make an effort to connect with you, give you praise or attention, and stops sharing any personal thoughts or feelings
- He stops making you a priority. He wants to spend all of his time with friends or other people and doesn't value time together any more
- He never initiates any more. He isn't as physically excited and into you as he was at first
- He starts flirting, talking to or even hanging out with other women
Recognize any of these?
So what in the world can you do about it when a man is acting so withdrawn and closed off like in these situations above?
Well, tell me...
Did you ever sense any of these things coming before they happened, or when they started, but you didn't have any "proof?"
Fascinating how that works.
What's going on here?
Well, what's happening centers around an important idea I want you to understand -
It's the idea that you instinctively know more about what's going on in the world around you than you or your conscious mind fully recognizes.
So here's the deal...
You ALREADY HAVE a magical ability inside you that comes up for you every once in a while.
So all you have to do is learn how to consciously tune into it.
This "magic" is what we also refer to sometimes as INTUITION.
So how does it work and what is it?
In short, intuition is something that comes "pre-wired" in your brain.
The way your conscious and subconscious mind is hooked up to the rest of your complex body systems and senses make it possible.
So the good news is that this ability is there for you anytime you want to use it.
But the bad news is that you have to take time to fully tune into it and recognize your ability.
It's a kind of "practice."
Music is a good way to explain it.
You can't just pick up an instrument and start playing, right?
But once you start to become more aware of the instrument, the music and how to play, things start to naturally fall into place.
And soon, sounds, melodies and rhythms just start to flow out of you in the moment.
Like they appear out of thin air, and nothing could feel more natural.
And your mind is able to process all the information coming at it that used to overload it.
But now it can take it all in and use it to actually ANTICIPATE what's next.
Well, this is EXACTLY what this magical ability of yours called intuition is like.
Your mind is constantly picking up on information from your environment, even when you're not really conscious of it.
And all that information is being "processed" over and over to try and calculate the risk, danger, and expectations from your environment to try to find a way towards the outcome you want.
So let's get to it.
THE MAGIC POWER OF YOUR INTUITION
Here's something you already know...
Men don't make it very easy for open and honest communication about what's happening and what's going on in your relationship.
That's why I don't have to tell you that men can be bad communicators when it comes to their feelings, emotions and intentions around love and relationships.
But give them a sports game and they'll give it all kinds of meaning and emotion that you've never seen them share before.
What a bunch of apes...LOL
So knowing that men can be BAD COMMUNICATORS, and that they can have serious shortcomings with sharing their feelings or simply knowing how they are feeling in a given moment and being able to articulate it leaves you with a personal choice to make.
You can either:
A) Do nothing about it and continue to be shocked, frustrated, surprised and hurt by the things that men do and say (or don't do or say) and have your relationship stay "stuck" in the same place.
B) You can start to create a more perceptive and insightful way of being in your own life and relationships by using your natural intuitive abilities... and changing the way you and a man COMMUNICATE.
Here's the thing...
Using your intuition will not only help you understand a man better, but help guide you to an even more rewarding benefit - to help him understand YOU.
So which one will it be?
Choice A - do nothing and stay "stuck"?
Or Choice B - grow and learn?
Nod if you're choosing B - more perception and insight.
And if you're still stuck in the trap of Choice A where things aren't great but you always get to be "right" when the man in your life disappoints you... then go ahead and stop reading.
I don't want to waste our time.
Good. Glad you're still here.
Let's get to it then...
USING YOUR INTUITION WITH MEN
Using your intuition might be the best, and in some situations, the ONLY way, that you'll be able to know what's really going on inside the mind of a man.
And even better, the best way to find a way to help him understand YOU and your feelings.
But if you're completely honest, I think you'll remember that deep down even YOU don't always know exactly what your feelings mean or how to make sense of it all.
So how do you expect a man to take in the small part of your feelings that you can explain with words and understand and relate to you?
Here's an answer to get you started -
Use your intuition and let it guide you.
So how do you do that?
I'm going to give you a short-cut guide to getting in touch with your intuition.
That way, you can start getting the benefits of understanding and becoming understood.
SIX STEPS FOR USING YOUR INTUITION WITH A MAN
Step 1: Clear Your Mind Of Fear And Doubt
Some women end up worrying almost obsessively that something is wrong or going badly with a guy they're interested in or dating once they see some negative sign or pattern.
And once this happens, they want to know what's going on so intently, and often expect the bad, that they let their negative thoughts take over.
If you want to be able to use your intuition, you need to start interrupting that voice in your head that's the "fearmonger."
You know the one - that voice that's always worrying just to try and keep you safe and protected... And to predict all the bad things you've seen and felt before so that you don't have to go through them again.
The thing is, you can't find the truth in a situation if you and your mind is buried inside your mind in fears and doubts.
Have you ever seen how arrogant people often cover up or ignore real problems around them just because they want to believe they're always right - no matter what the cost?
Keep a balanced and objective mind set.
That way your beliefs systems aren't all mixed up with negative thoughts and fears.
If they are, there's no way for you to see the real "cause and effect" around you.
You'll just see what your mind is fearful and afraid of - and this only helps bring the same kind of negative situations and experiences you've had in the past into your life again.
Don't do it!
By the way... if you're having a tough time moving past any painful or negative thoughts or experiences from your past... or you see that often times it's YOUR negative and fearful emotions that end up getting in your way and ruin things with men, then I would STRONGLY SUGGEST that you take a minute and read the letter at the link below to help get those negative thoughts and patterns out of your life once and for all.
Don't let the things that don't define you and aren't your personal best push away the man you're meant to be with.
Step 2: Accept That Men Don't Make "Sense"
All those frustrating things that men do that don't make any sense to you as a woman will NEVER MAKE SENSE.
Stop trying to make sense of them.
Trying to make sense of a man in your own terms is entirely counterproductive and will only make you frustrated.
To learn about things you don't already know, like intuitive ideas, you have to have to look with a different set of eyes - not the same ones you always use for yourself.
Step 3: You Can't Figure Everything Out
Have you ever REALLY hit it off with a guy but after a few weeks or months, even though things seemed great, the man pulled away and starting acting distant and cold?
Most men, at one time or another, do things like this that are impossible to analyze and figure out.
EXPECT to NOT UNDERSTAND everything a man does.
If you can become more comfortable with the idea of not knowing everything about WHY a man does what he does, then you'll feel a strange sense of calm relaxation - along with an increase in your own self-confidence.
And guess what? This ends up being VERY UNIQUE and very ATTRACTIVE when a man sees and senses that you can be confident and "centred" in those times where other women he knows have acted a little "too emotional" for him.
Now, I'm not saying that it's OK for a man to do whatever he wants, and that you should accept any negative and withdrawing behaviours without having your own feelings about it - and "pretending" it's all OK.
But the more relaxed and positive you think and feel around these things, no matter what the man is doing, the sooner you'll stop fighting everything in your mind and start creating better situations for yourself.
It's frustrating and counterintuitive, but accepting what's going on and moving forward from that reality in a positive way changes the whole frame of the situation.
There's a funny thing about the way the world works... and especially about how men are when it comes to relationships with women -
Any "force" or "energy" that you apply to a situation with a man... there will be a response that's equal in force to what you're doing.
This is a basic law of the universe - every force produces a response of equal force.
So if the "energy" you're applying is anxious, fearful, uncertain, etc. than guess what you're going to get back from a man?
You guessed it - the same kind of energy in response.
But some women get stuck in the "I need to understand why he did this and THEN I'll figure out how to feel and act" mind set. So they keep on pressing and using the force they feel... thinking it will somehow transform into connection and understanding from a man.
I'll put it to you straight - this NEVER leads to clear thinking and positive action.
And more importantly, it never gets you the kind of connection and response you want with a man.
Quick note here - what if instead of using fearful, anxious, negative energy that turns a man off, you were to have the kind of energy that would ATTRACT a man instead?
How do you "get" the kind of energy that tells a man that you're the ONLY woman he wants to be with?
That you're unique and worthy of his time and attention?
That he really got "lucky" the day he met YOU?
I'll tell you how - you get it by doing and saying the things that trigger emotional attraction in a man.
If he can't help but wonder and think about you all the time, he's going to pursue you in order to be close to you. If you create real and lasting ATTRACTION in his mind, he won't even be able to help himself.
He's going to do what it takes to be with you.
Step 4: Listen For More Than Words
Intuition doesn't talk in straight answers, or in plain logical English.
It's much more abstract.
Your intuition talks to you through feelings, images, and bodily sensations such as "gut feelings."
Most people, especially women I know, are usually in an open and relaxed state when they get intuitive gut feelings and understandings.
I couldn't talk highly enough about meditation, but I know it's not for everybody.
If you don't think you have a strong intuitive sense, simply try asking yourself more questions and keep them mulling around in your mind.
When you've got something in the back of your mind, something amazing happens without you even trying.
Your brain takes notice and uses all your senses to find any sign or trace of information that relates to your questions as you go about your day.
It's kind of like a search running in the background on your computer - even though you're doing something else it doesn't stop looking.
After you've asked your questions, your mind will start sending you ideas, feelings and images without you even thinking about it.
But sometimes it usually takes more time than you'd like.
Finally, your intuitive voice will eventually just pop up and start to give you hints and information without you even asking for it.
And then it's up to you to pay attention, acknowledge it and make good use of it.
The huge mistake too many women make is when they get intuitive messages that they don't like, or that scare them.
When this happens, a mature Woman will look at the intuitive message she's getting and go to a place of figuring out how she can use the message she's getting in a constructive way for herself - and for her relationship.
An immature woman (a Girl) will get very upset about receiving a negative message, and will get thrown off emotionally to the point where she will say things that shows she's not in a very fun and attractive place personally and emotionally.
When a man sees this, it would be great if he would always stop and say,
"Hey, are you OK? Do you want to talk about it, honey?"
But I think you know that this is NOT what most men will do in these situations. Especially if you're in a "newer" relationship... or you've been in a relationship where you've been acting hurt or upset often around a man.
At these times, most men will either PULL AWAY to try and avoid the negative emotions they can see and sense in you...
Or they will get irritated or frustrated with you and want you to simply get rid of your own feelings.
Either way, it doesn't work out well. At all.
Step 5: Practice Your Intuitive Abilities
One of my favourite things to do is to train and tune my intuition with each new person I meet.
And I've personally found that body language has become the thing that gives me special intuitive hints about people and situations.
If you're new to using your intuition or you're concerned about if or how to act on it, start with smaller things that might be less important.
Like whether or not you should go away for the weekend or if your friend will like the gift you've been thinking about for them.
That way, you can be practising and learn to use your intuition without doing it in high-risk or high-pressure situations.
This will help you develop your abilities and become more comfortable to trust what you find.
Step 6: Act With The "Long-Term" In Mind
Years ago I had a huge learning experience when it came to using and listening to my intuition in the right way.
I was working at a company that had laid off several people and I began to worry that my performance was being scrutinized and that I was in danger of losing my job, too.
I began to work harder than ever, hoping to show them how valuable I was to the company and how much they stood to lose if they laid me off.
One day, they called me into a meeting and I thought, "Uh oh. This is it." I thought I was getting let go.
Before they could say anything, I started listing all the ways I was working hard. But I started blaming the managers for a lot of the things I thought were wrong with the company.
Fortunately, they stopped me before I went "too far" and said too much. They told me they had noticed how much I had accomplished recently and wanted to express their appreciation.
The meeting went nothing like I had expected.
End of story.
Thinking back, my intuition had alerted me so that I'd be aware of what was going on, which was good because I was able to "step up" at a very crucial time.
But the mistake I made was taking that information and using it to justify my own fears and insecurities.
If I would have taken the information, been patient with it and applied it towards my goals in a positive context, then the entire experience knowing that the managers were watching my work would have been different.
Maybe even productive for me.
But I didn't use my intuition to see my way to something better. I simply used it as a means to worry and stress myself out over my own fears.
So all this talk about intuition...
How does it really apply to the men in your life, dating and relationships?
Well, take a man with some of those common negative male behaviours -
- fear of intimacy
- inability to commit
- flirting, cheating
Intuition can help you see past these things and understand them in the larger context of the deeper, real psychological and emotional "stuff" that's hiding beneath the surface.
Your intuition could even help you cut through a man's ego and persona to get to the real person that's often hard to find.
Intuition is probably the best tool for being able to identify good and bad qualities in a man.
A man's external or surface behaviour and attitude can be very different than his deeper desires and intentions - as you probably already know.
Some men are, unfortunately, just good at playing the part of an emotionally stable, available and loving guy for a while, even if they aren't.
So it's really up to YOU to learn to get to the "deeper emotional truth" of any man you're interested in or dating.
And yeah, I know men can be soooo frustrating.
In a better world, men would be able to tell you honestly and sincerely where they were at.
But as you know, MEN SUCK sometimes.
And a man will basically NEVER be able to tell you clearly and honestly everything he feels or what he wants when you ask him.
So if you're constantly surprised, blind-sided or confused by what men around you do, then it's time to get in touch with not only your intuition, but the other knowledge and skills that you can put to work for yourself.
Your heart and your love-life deserve it.
Remember, learning to understand is one of the best ways to be understood.
It's easy to inspire a man to really love and appreciate everything about your relationship.
It all starts with a basic UNDERSTANDING of what HE needs in order to feel like he's the right partner for YOU.
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