The ONE feeling that makes Him FALL IN LOVE and stay in LOVE with you. Do you Know it?
Here's a quick tip for you...If you know the man in your life loves you, but he doesn't seem "in love with you" any more, and inside you're afraid it's something about you or your relationship that you don't know how to fix.
I want you to know you have the power to quickly turn your relationship around. You can get back the closeness and connection in your relationship - IF you know how to re-ignite the positive feelings that drew him to you in the first place.
Do you remember how strong his feelings were when he first decided that you were the one for him?
I've helped many women reconnect with the man in their life and transform their relationship in literally a few days.
And I've showed each woman who's been able to transform their relationship how to do it with the simple set of powerful tools you can discover.
Ok, now let's get to the juicy stuff about men and love.
Has a man ever said to you, "I love you, but I'm just not IN LOVE with you any more"?
And then told you it's over because he just doesn't "feel it" for you any more?
Or how he just isn't in the right place to go on in a relationship? "It's not you, it's me."
Well, let me make you feel a whole lot better right away: This is extremely common among men, and it often has NOTHING to do with the woman he's with.
You could be the most amazing woman he has ever met - beautiful, kind, successful - but if a man is not in the right place in his life and hasn't reached the level of maturity that a real relationship requires of him, he's going to cut you loose. In fact, this is so common - and so many women have asked me for help about this.
Let me take you on a little trip inside the mind of a man to that place where he processes the emotions of love so you can understand what that means to him.
WHAT A MAN MEANS BY "IN LOVE"
I'm going to explain something to you about men and love, and I'll try and keep it short. I'll have to leave some big pieces out, but you'll get what you need to know.
I'll start by giving you what I think will be a kind of shift in your perspective about men. As much as men are different, when it comes down to it, men are human. And because they're human, they have more in common with women than they have that makes them different. Which means that men share many of the same dreams, fears, frustrations and worries that you do on a basic level.
One of the biggest fears that men have, as do many women, is that they'll end up in a "loveless" relationship that isn't about fulfillment or passion and appreciation, but about entitlement, obligation and where the two people in the relationship are working kind of "against" each other more often than supporting and loving each other.
Now, with that said, men who spend a lot of time with women often grow close and connected, and they develop a more "familiar" type of love as time goes on. This is a great kind of love to feel and to share, and it's the kind that usually takes months or years to develop.
It bonds a couple together in a very long term "nesting" kind of way, as it's based on comfort and predictability and stability. On the other hand, men also experience another kind of love that isn't based on the familiar and the predictable. In fact, this "other" feeling of love is actually based on things that are NEW and UNPREDICTABLE.
And these are the qualities that I've discovered make up that emotion called ATTRACTION.
WHAT KEEPS ATTRACTION ALIVE
Have you ever been in a relationship with a man where he started out doing all kinds of things to surprise you, show you his appreciation, and come up with new things for you both to do together?
And what happened when you no longer felt this excitement that came with surprises and the unexpected things he did that drove you wild?
Well, you might have felt as though something had broken down in the relationship somewhere, or that the man had stopped making an effort or caring as much.In other words, you stopped feeling that kind of love from him that used to drive you wild with excitement to see him and be with him. And without that, it felt like something was missing or gone that needed to be there.
Unfortunately, no amount of asking or pleading with a man to change back to the way he was ever really works in this situation. And not only does it hurt that he's changed, but you lose that great connection and the attraction you were feeling with him.
LOSING THAT LOVING FEELING
Know what I'm talking about?
Ever experienced this with a man?
I thought so.
Well, the reality is that men often experience this same kind of thing with women. See, when a relationship starts to get more comfortable, more predictable, and has more routines in it, the kind of intense passion that a man once felt can sometimes "fizzle out." Of course, what fizzles out isn't just about sex and physical attraction... I'm talking about what I call "emotional attraction."
THE ONE FEELING THAT MAKES HIM FALL IN LOVE... AND STAY IN LOVE
Emotional attraction is the thing that gets a man to open up, to share his feelings and connect with a woman on a deeper level than he usually allows in to his life. It's what BONDS a man to one woman over the long term. When a man says that he doesn't feel "in love" with you any more, what he's really saying is...
"I used to feel both physical and emotional attraction with you. But the way our relationship has been, I'm not feeling much, if any, of that emotional attraction now. And because of that, what I feel in my heart and my head tells me that something is `off' in our relationship, and I don't know what to do about it."
Now, if this doesn't sound "fair" and like a man is removing himself from responsibility - I get it. Should a man do more to get the relationship back on track and reconnect the relationship from his end?
Yes. He could and should.
But the REALITY is that in this situation, the man is NOT doing this, and he either has no idea what to do about it, or has decided that things aren't working based on how he's feeling. You can either choose to try and go against the reality of what other people in your life feel and experience (and have a very difficult time with it)...Or you can take a moment to simply accept the situation as it is and CHOOSE what you want to do about it - which puts you back in a positive and grounded place of power in your life).
KEEPING EMOTIONAL ATTRACTION WORKING FOR YOU
If you're sensing that a man is feeling less connected to you - or he has even told you he's not "feeling it" any more - here's how to turn the situation around:
Step 1) Stop focusing on what's NOT WORKING.
What you focus your energy on is what you end up seeing more of and getting more of. Instead of focusing on what's NOT working, take some time to access the positives of the your man and your relationship, and make it a point to let your man know that you appreciate these positive aspects. Often times your hurt and anger will give you narrow vision and prevent you from acknowledging what's actually working in your relationship.
Widen the lens and look at the bigger picture of your relationship. What's keeping you two together? Bring your energy, awareness, and appreciation there.
While this sounds simple and too airy-fairy to create any real change, you'll be surprised at the effect it will have. When you shift your attention and your thought pattern and "energy", the man in your life will feel the shift in you, and it will catch his attention and inspire him to be more present in the relationship with you. Your thoughts have the power to create your feelings. And your feelings have the power to inspire your man to want to connect with you, or want to pull away.
Step 2) Give yourself and him some "clear space".
When someone asks for or creates distance or space, you can handle it one of two ways. You can either resist it and try to grab on tighter, which only backfires. Or you can allow the space, and even take some space for yourself. When you do this, something magical happens.
First, you feel empowered over the situation so that your emotions do not overtake you. Second, men often move past their own doubts and fears in their own time when given space (a few hours or days) to do so.
Step 3) Create attraction and re-connect
If things are stalling in your relationship with a man but you used to feel very connected to him, this is actually good news for you. That's because you already have all the ingredients you need to re-light the fire of the relationship.If he was physically and emotionally attracted to you before, you can inspire the same level of closeness again.
Remember what I said before about attraction and love happening for a man because of NEWNESS and UNPREDICTABILITY?
Well, if things have fizzled out with a man you had a close, connected relationship with, you can jump start things by injecting new and unpredictable things into how you relate with him. So, if you normally have the same weekend routine, mix it up. Come up with something different and interesting to do. Pick a sport that you can do with him, go out and meet new people together, explore different ways to be intimate together, plan a trip somewhere you've always wanted to go to.
And if you are together all the time, spending time apart as in step two creates newness and unpredictability, too.
When You do Gender Education Relationship Coaching with Me you'll learn how to:
- Share your innermost feelings with your man in a way that feels SAFE and HONEST
- Bring back the passion, devotion, and romance in your relationship simply by bringing out certain qualities you already possess
- Identify the 9 critical warning signs that you're LOSING YOURSELF in your relationship, and what to do about it
- Get the support you need from a man when you need it
- Connect your body to your mind when you're feeling in pain or you don't want to deal with your emotions and anger
- And many more powerful insights and practical ways to dramatically improve your relationship and recapture the connection you share with a man.
Even if things feel like they're falling apart, what you learn in this Relationship Coaching program will show you how to make your relationship so strong, that your passion will only grow deeper as you two become closer than you ever imagined.
And you will get to learn the 5 most Important elements that create the FOUNDATION for a truly loving relationship!
I'll talk to you again soon
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